Peek-A-Boo

Hi all, so I know you're thinking yep she started a blog but didn't stick it out and follow through. I guess in a way you would be right but let me explain. See the big issue is my computer died on me in September which oddly enough is a month after my mother died. No I do not talk about it, not only do I not talk about it but I don't even have pictures up. Just not ready to handle it really. I'm genuinely a happy person and I can't really feed into sadness. So I choose to avoid it altogether until I'm ready. Okay so as you can see, I have a lot on my plate. However since September I have been back and forth to what I consider my real home, Atlanta. I'm really missing it there. I love the friends that I consider family there. So trust me when I say I will have a lot more to blog about real soon. I'm ambitious and unfortunately I've put way to much of that in people who don't appreciate it anymore. Not anymore, from here on out its about me and my lil fellas.

So why is this called peek-a-boo, well because I'm just checking in but I'm not ready to be consistent as of yet. I can't wait till I get an actual computer of my own again. Until then I will peek in and out of my blog from time to time. Hang in there with me. ;-)

Much needed break

So I realize that I've been gone but that don't mean I've given up. I will be the first to admit that I have been guilty of starting things and not finishing them. Over time as you age, you start to feel guilty about it and if you don't than you should. I understand in life that you have to experiment to find what's right for you but at some point in your life you need to stick something through rather its for you or not. 

So over this past month I've experienced a lot. My life has had a few bumps and bruises as well as some beautiful moments. You have to take it all in. I choose to not go extra personal in my blog but I'm dealing with it. I did learn a few things. Never underestimate the mind for it is very powerful. Also if you don't have friends get some because life is lonely without them. My life has been amazing because of the friends that I have that embrace me and care for me when life throws you curve balls.

This is a short blog today cause I'm just happy to be back blogging. I'm going to gather my thoughts and have many things to share in the near future. There is excitement to come people. In the words of Mary J. "Share My World"

Get Your Stretch On

Its fall and you know what that means....New Fashions!!! I used to not be big on this kinda of stuff but the older I get and come into my woman-hood lol, the more I'm like yes bring it on...

Growing up I love leggings. I mean who don't. They are so comfortable and can be matched with almost anything. Anyone of any size can wear them, its just what they wear with them that becomes the deciding factor of "oh no she didn't." I'm not a skinny chick by no means. I've got thick legs for days but you better believe I will rock a pair or two. Anywho, here is a sample of some leggings this fall.

Just when you thought they were jeans...

This gives it motion w/o doing too much.

You can rock this a cute solid top.

Of course there is some stone washed.

If you like edgy....Ripped

So will you be rocking some leggings and if so which ones...I got my eye on a few ;-)

Afraid of life....

I haven't blogged in quite some time. Its not because I've started something and back slide into giving it up. I enjoy blogging and see it as a good form of release. Often times its hard to get a grip on your thoughts until you see them written down on paper. This blog is my piece of paper.

"Life Is Short"

Sure we hear this all the time and most of us blow it off. When you are growing up it seems like it takes forever to become an adult. However has anyone noticed the moment you become an adult the years start racing past you. One day you are graduating talking about going to college or pursuing some entertainment dream, the next you look up and its your class reunion and you're wondering if anyone else has failed to accomplish all their dreams...smh

The problem is the "real world" is full of responsibilities and limited, restricted work and school schedules. How many people do you know started a job and said it was just temporary. Then temporary turned into 5 years because of a house, car, or just fear of not being able to obtain anything better. Or is that person you? Life is meant to make mistakes, and take risk no matter the circumstance. More importantly make those mistakes while you're young. If you don't live and take chance while you're young you are heading down a lane of would've, should've, could've which is basically bound to end up with a major midlife crisis or overall depression.

There is nothing to fear but fear itself...Live like you will never live again cause guess what...YOU WON'T!!!

R.I.P. Aaliyah

Mini Vacay

So I recently took a little 4 day weekend vacay and I spent it with my best friend Derek. I know Detroit don't have the best reputation but it still has much to offer and wonderful things to see. Funny thing is I got caught up and trying to show him the sites of the city and began to get frustrated when I realized how much there was to do here. I haven't even scratched the surface of places but I tried to pick what was convenient for our schedule.

Currently I don't even live in the city but instead Ann Arbor which I truly love so of course we had to spend some time enjoying the sites here and we discovered such nice culture in this town. Then we headed to the GM headquarters which is located in the Renaissance building after stopping off at the infamous John F. King Used Book Store. I spent my Saturday at Cedar Point amusement park. Sunday was a family day and Monday was strictly recovery.

So how was your weekend?

4 Day Weekend With A Friend

Happy 4 day weekend, well for me anyway :-)

One of my best friends is coming to town and yes I said one of cause I know you can have more than 1. So I will be very busy this weekend doing all sorts of stuff. I'm so excited I can't even think straight so next week there will be pics and commentary.

Today is Thirsty Thursday and I have to give you this weeks drinks:

1st up is the Bart Simpson
Drink Category: Shot

Drink Ingredients:
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1/2 oz Crown Royal
1/2 oz Amaretto
1/2 oz Peach schnapps
splash Cranberry juice
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Instructions:
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Chill and serve in large shot glass

2nd is the California Icd Tea
Drink Category: Cocktail

Drink Ingredients:
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1/2 oz Vodka
1/2 oz Gin
1/2 oz Rum
1/2 oz Tequila
1/2 oz Triple sec
2 oz Sour mix
Fill with Orange juice
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Instructions:
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Shake or roll. Garnish with an orange slice.


ENJOY!!!!

The warm blanket of mediocrity.....

I have a good friend who loathes mediocrity. As a matter of fact I think she's down right terrified of it. Personally I can't blame her. When you grow up in a city or neighborhood where everyone thinks just getting by is just enough in life you might be afraid of it too. However, this isn't about to be a blog post bashing "the little or less fortunate" people. I don't think everyone who is mediocre always wanted to be. At the same rate not everyone is meant to be a star cause somebody has to clean the toilet. Who am I too judge?!! Nobody!!!

First of all there are plenty of people who are perfectly happy with being mediocre because its less responsibility. Then there are those who just want the easy route in life because they are lazy or have lack of patience or both. Of course some people can't help their disabilities rather it be physical or mental. I personally have a slight case of Atychiphobia (fear of failure) which tends to hinder you from wanting to try due to the possibility of falling flat on your face. The catch 22 is, the same reason I'm scared is the very same thing that pushes me past my fear...my kids. Because of my little men, losing a little is still losing too much but at the same time I refuse to live my life not trying because they deserve nothing but the best period. Not to mention I am their mentor and example of life and living. No excuses, just do it!!!

If your not successful what is your mediocre excuse? More importantly, what are you going to do about it?!!!

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I'm Addicted To Crack!!!

So its been 1 year and about 4 months since my last perm. However, I'm not sure just how much longer I can hold out. I know a lot of us have seen the Chris Rock movie "Good Hair" and all the horrible things that was said about our little chemical friend. So with that I'm about to come at you like one of our everyday herbal friends (weed head) on why its okay for me to use perm. No one gives off a better bullshit debate than a "Herbal Head" *sigh*

On that note we'll start this argument off with "I can stop anytime I want" then follow it with "I just use it for the convenience of work." Next I'm gone compare it to pressing your hair and flat ironing it and say how excessive heat isn't good for  your hair either and for those who grow dreads they have to cut their hair off and start over to change it up. Of course I have to point out how financially its cheaper than wearing wigs and weaves. Last but not least this wouldn't be a foolish argument without throwing in "GOD" so if he didn't want us to have or use perm he wouldn't have let man invent it...Now with that I'm done...LOL

Stop Blaming Monday

Monday for most Americans is the start of the work week which is why it has such a bad reputation. However, just like everything else in life, its all in the matter of how you choose to look at it. Personally I think its totally unfair the way Monday has been judged. I mean is it Monday's fault that you hate your job, absolutely not. Monday should be looked at as an opportunity to go to work starting fresh and revived from the weekend. Monday should be the day you tell yourself, this week is the week I get that promotion, close this deal, complete that project, or make this killer presentation. I mean is it Monday's fault that you have a job and not a career, or that you didn' follow your dreams. NO!!! Monday didn't tell you to get complacent at your job, drop out of school, or stay up partying all night Sunday.

I say lets stop this vicious cycle of hating Monday. Lets teach our children that the start of something is just as important as the finish. We don't want them starting school feeling defeated before the first bell. I say if you can't do what you love than love what you do. Or at the least don't bring me down with your depressing vibes. Quit and get another job and if you can't do that than just put up and shut up. At the end of the day not only are you getting on my nerves but your also driving your own self into a depression with your negative thoughts.

Sign,

A fan and friend of Monday ^_^

Thirsty Thursday

Okay so I've decided to call my Thursday blog entries 'Thirsty Thursday' because its the wrap of the week for me. I guess you could compare doing a blog to doing a column so it should be some structure so that your audience can understand your flow. Originally I though I would blog 5 days a week but that's too much considering I'm a full time mom, part-time college student, and I work a regular 9-5 so this "therapeutic" blog can not become a new piece of responsibility on my plate. I'm doing this to release not burden so M-Th it will be.

Now where was I? Oh yeah 'Thirsty Thursday' which is titled that for a numerous of reasons but don't get attached to the title cause that may change but its all I could come up with for the moment. One of the reasons I call it thirsty is because of the weekly drinks I will be introducing to the audience that I would like to try and the other reasons you will have to come back for :-p

This weeks drink are:

49er Gold Rush shot

Drink Ingredients:
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1/2 oz Cinnamon schnapps (Goldschlager)
1/2 oz Gold tequila (Cuervo)
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Instructions:
Pour in tequila, and cinnamon schnapps in a shot glass (chilled, to your advantage).
 

And for those who would like something to sip on, may I suggest....

 
A Gilligan Island
 
Drink Ingredients:
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1 oz Vodka
1 oz Peach schnapps
3 oz Orange juice

3 oz Cranberry juice

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Instructions:

Shaken, not stirred!

Yummy, Enjoy!!!

Happy B'Day: My Next American Top Model

Seventeen years ago today my niece Alexxis (with 2 x's) was born and boy was she meant to be here. I absolutely positively adore this young lady. She is intelligent, vibrant, talented, creative, and gorgeous inside and out. If I was to ever have a daughter Ms. Lexxi is exactly what I would want her to be like. I'm very proud of her and I know even the sky isn't the limit of her possibilities. Love you niecey boo =)

Its Complicated.......or is it?!!!

Its Complicated: I'm sure we've all heard this following the question "Are you in a relationship," heck some of us might have even given this as a response. "Its Complicated" is also a big hit on a very small subtle social website by the name of Facebook that you may or may not have heard of. However, what exactly does complicated mean. Well we know it doesn't mean your single so it has to mean in a relationship right. So why don't people just say in a relationship. You know why, I'll tell you why, because they are trying to create a grey area. Remember the oh so popular "we're on a break" and how no one ever really knew what that was and how to define it. It was different for every relationship.

Truth is none of its complicated, the only thing thats complicated is the communication. The communication is only complicated because of the honesty. Honesty isn't just hard to hear its hard to tell but I'm not even going to go this route cause thats a completely different blog. So back to "Its Complicated" which is basically I'm in a relationship but its not going the way I want so I'm open to taking numbers if it can be discreet.

Call me old school but I don't do gray areas and as old folks would say "either it is or it ain't, ain't no in between." People try to hard and sure maybe I should sugar coat this and water it down but for what, thats the problem now. Everyone is talking in riddles so that when confronted they can twist and contrive it to be whatever they want. The whole no harm no foul and its your fault that you didn't understand something that you were never suppose to understand anyway, is the way of the world today.

Don't get me wrong, I'm no prude and I enjoy a great debate like anyone but at some point a line needs to be drawn because this is how people get hurt. These new generations are more and more out of control with their emotions and at the end of the day its not worth it. People need to stop being so selfish and let go because the possibilities are endless in this sea of fish (if you know what I mean).

So the next time somebody say "Its Complicated" just say, "basically your in a relationship that your not trying to leave but you want to have some fun on the side" and see the response you get.....

So I did it, now what.....

As much as I hate to be part of the crowd cause I never like riding a trend, here I am.....A Blogger! Smh!

What to expect...hmmmm let's see. First off I'm doing this for me, strictly. Not for attention, not for a possibility of being discovered, not for friends and damn sure not for any one's approval. That's a bold statement to make right, well I'm a bold person. Truth of the matter is I'm considering this to be my journal and since I'm a pretty good typer but a lazy writer, this seem to make since to me. Now don't get me wrong you can share your thoughts and opinions however this is still about me and I don't have to agree or care about what you think. However, I mean that in the most humble way possible. On this blog, you will definitely have to know how to agree to disagree.

I don't know how often I will post or what I will post about because there is no objective or goal behind this. This is my new found therapy and since I'm single, I need it.